From time to time we have to confront others in order to handle a situation and resolve a matter. The attitude of our heart, when this becomes necessary, is very important. Our attitude should convey that the other person’s feelings are every bit as important as our own. We should be open to the way that is best, even if it is not our own. The focus is never on who is right, but on the problem to be solved. The attention is not on the person, but on the problem. Our attitude is to be one of humility, and our pursuit is for peace. The timing and the place of confrontations are also crucial.
As we pray to receive instructions on how to handle any confrontation, the Lord will give us the preferred time and a favorable location. The timing should be as close to the incident as possible. A long enough time is to be allocated so it cannot be done in a hurry. The place should be a quiet place filled with worship and prayer. Someone should never be confronted in front of others. It should be done privately. If needed, a third party may be there. Most of all, the Lord is to be the initiator, the instructor and the facilitator of the meeting.
When we meet with others, even if not in relation to a conflict, being aware of the presence and influence of the Lord helps our conversations be filled with edification; and gives room for His love, wisdom and joy to move freely. He is the greatest counselor. He restores our soul from glory to glory!
Romans 12:10-11 “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord;”