We should have an attitude of resolve when we confront one another regarding offenses, disagreements or misunderstandings. We are to speak the truth in love and seek reconciliation in every situation. In confronting one another, we aim for resolution foremost and always.
We engage in communication, seeking reconciliation and restoration. We do not discuss things with the goal of proving who is right and who is wrong, debating and reliving the offense, but we desire and pursue the peace that comes with a resolution. When our pursuit is for resolution, there will be instances when the other party is not at a place where they want the same outcome. In that case we are released because we have forgiven and we must let the others go regardless of their responses. We can trust the Lord will minister reconciliation and bring a resolution in His own timing. We are not responsible for how someone else responds to a situation, but we can handle our part in a Christ-like manner.
When a matter is resolved, it has been handled correctly and can no longer negatively affect our future. As a child of God, the results of every conflict are beneficial. We learn valuable lessons and grow in grace and love. When we seek reconciliation and restoration, we walk in peace and rest in the ability of the Lord, from glory to glory!
2 Corinthians 5:18-20 “Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Now then, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were pleading through us: we implore you on Christ’s behalf, be reconciled to God.”
Running is never the solution to confronting a conflict with anyone. Running away physically doesn’t move us away from the wound a conflict causes if left unresolved. We find we cannot run away from ourselves, so we eventually have to address that conflict, no matter when it occurred. It’s when we are face-to-face with the Lord that we can face others, and ourselves, and receive total healing from faith to faith.
Anything in our past that is left unresolved affects our present situations. What we didn’t get over then, can get over us now; and hinder us from turning the page and walking in the new. Not doing anything at the time of a conflict is another way to run; it’s then hidden and difficult to recognize. Constantly returning back to a past situation—is running away from a current one because we cannot be in the now—with undivided attention. God loves us so much that He brings things back to our remembrance so they can be dealt with once and for all.
When we face afflictions we find a place apart, alone with God, where we can reflect by the Spirit and not react in the flesh. We release our disappointments, frustrations and anger into the hands of God, by running to God as quickly as possible. We do not run away from what we have to face; and we do not run back to what is past. We run to God trusting we can never run out of His love and grace, from glory to glory!
John 6:66-69 From that time many of His disciples went back and walked with Him no more. Then Jesus said to the twelve, “Do you also want to go away?” But Simon Peter answered Him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. Also we have come to believe and know that You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.”
Decisions should be made without any doubt. If we sense uncertainty, we must wait until His peace is attained. If it’s only 80%, wait for the 20% hesitation to be resolved. It might be something He will show us that needs to be worked on before going forth; the timing might not be right or all the pieces might not be in place. Whatever the reason, if we wait for total assurance we will walk in the best God has for us.
We must pay attention to the checkmarks because some, if not considered, will become roadblocks. Some can be overlooked because they seem insignificant. We cannot ignore anything that hinders our peace. The Lord leads us not to move by giving us a lack of peace. If we realize there is a direction we have taken that we were not sure of at the time, we humbly surrender the situation to the Lord. He will make every crooked place straight and bring restoration.
It is to be differentiated from self-doubt which comes from our carnal nature. The reservations are then pertaining to us, and often come after we have made a faith decision. We pray for the Lord to remove any doubts so we can hear clearly and move with surety in our steps. Let’s take heed to the precious witnessing of the Holy Spirit. He will guide us into all truth. We can depend on Him, from glory to glory!
Matthew 14:30-31 “But when he saw that the wind was boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink he cried out, saying, ‘Lord, save me!’ And immediately Jesus stretched out His hand and caught him, and said to him, ‘O you of little faith, why did you doubt?’ ”
From time to time we have to confront others in order to handle a situation and resolve a matter. The attitude of our heart, when this becomes necessary, is very important. Our attitude should convey that the other person’s feelings are every bit as important as our own. We should be open to the way that is best, even if it is not our own. The focus is never on who is right, but on the problem to be solved. The attention is not on the person, but on the problem. Our attitude is to be one of humility, and our pursuit is for peace. The timing and the place of confrontations are also crucial.
As we pray to receive instructions on how to handle any confrontation, the Lord will give us the preferred time and a favorable location. The timing should be as close to the incident as possible. A long enough time is to be allocated so it cannot be done in a hurry. The place should be a quiet place filled with worship and prayer. Someone should never be confronted in front of others. It should be done privately. If needed, a third party may be there. Most of all, the Lord is to be the initiator, the instructor and the facilitator of the meeting.
When we meet with others, even if not in relation to a conflict, being aware of the presence and influence of the Lord helps our conversations be filled with edification; and gives room for His love, wisdom and joy to move freely. He is the greatest counselor. He restores our soul from glory to glory!
Romans 12:10-11 “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord;”