As unity is increasing among us, insecurity in relationships is being eliminated. Insecurity is part of our “old” man, who we are in Adam, before being born again and being a new creature in Christ. The more secure we are in our relationship with God, the more secure we can be in our relationship with others. Through the grace and love of God, we walk in newness of life.
Insecurity causes people to assume and receive rejection, build walls and try to control others. It feeds their fear of losing what they have because deep down they do not trust they really have it. It disables intimacy and steals joy. It causes people to have faith one day and fear the next. In our security with Christ, insecurity is defeated. Relationships will not remain the same, but our position in Christ will never change. Others will not always be responsive to our love but we love regardless.
The love of God conquers all and destroys the walls that have been built. We unconditionally love, care and unite with one another. No matter what the changes are in relationships, it can never change our bonds in Christ. We are accepted in God, even when rejected by others. We are loved by God, even when disliked by others. We are safe in the Lord, even when threatened by others. We dwell in security in the Lord, from glory to glory!
Ephesians 1:5-7 “…having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”
Everything we do for the Lord has to be done out of love, and in love. It’s because we love Him that we obey Him. It’s not to earn His love, but in response to His love that we love Him with our whole heart. We love Him because He first loved us.
We do the things not because we have to, but because we get to. We get to worship the Lord; we get to praise Him; we get to give unto Him and we get to serve Him; not out of obligation but because of adoration. We don’t have to do this or that for the Lord in fear that He will not love us anymore. We get to because of the faith we have in His eternal love. The way we have experienced human love can hinder our experiencing the love of God in a deep, intimate way. Intentions may be good and come out of love, but sometimes the way things are done may not be done in love because of hurts of the past. As the Lord heals those past hurts, what we do out of love, we also do in love.
As we do things out of love, we find that the love of God in our hearts enables us to do all things in love. We do not do things to receive love in return, but because we return to Him the love He gives to us, unconditionally, from glory to glory.
1 John 4:19 “We love Him because He first loved us.”
It’s easier to let people move in, than to have them move out. This is not just in the natural, but also as we are led to set a new boundary in a relationship. Meeting with others to let them know it’s time to go our separate ways can be challenging. The Lord helps us by divine intervention and the manifestation of His grace.
We might encounter opposition and it could be difficult to stand strong in what we are led to do when we are pressured to change our decision. This can be a challenging issue when it comes to family members. Because of familiarity, some may be taken for granted. At times, boundaries that have been set are not respected. Guilt is used to make us feel like we are responsible for the welfare of others; and the responsibility felt can be overwhelming.
Praying and trusting the Lord for everyone’s best interests is foremost in walking with the Lord through this kind of trial. Speaking the truth in love is important. When the truth is known, people are set free. Often resentment may come in when people are unaware of other people’s thoughts; usually because their thoughts have not been expressed clearly. When talking is not feasible, we should communicate in writing. Prayer avails much. God is able. We walk in truth, from glory to glory.
Ephesians 4:15 “… but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ—”